The Road to Hana, Maui, Hawaii at dusk. It was a 12 hour journey all the way around the island. This was a civilized part of the road. Most was treacherous and darn right scary. I absolutely had to be in the present moment for that entirety of that trip. It was and remains a great lesson. pc: Angela Moonan
As someone who has spent their professional life developing FUTURE SCENARIOS for brands and their supporting organizations, it's an interesting learning curve to focus on the HERE & NOW. Truly, the here and now is the ONLY place of power:
Envisioning a different path for your company is a natural part of strategic development and growth. What can sometimes get lost is the appreciation for what you have right here, right now.
The employee who just got a five star review from a customer wants to FEEL the APPRECIATION for their applied skills and energy, right here, right now... not sometime off in the distant unknown. Your sales manager who just lost his wife to cancer doesn't need reassurance and commitment from you next month. He needs it - right here and now.
For new staff to begin rowing in the same direction as your overall team's vision, they can only learn what that looks and feels like, right here and now. You can only affect profit margins for fourth quarter, right here and now.
"The employee who just got a five star review from a customer wants to FEEL the APPRECIATION for their applied skills and energy, right here, right now... not sometime off in the distant unknown."
In the 'being present' of it all, focusing your energy and attention right here and now, you are your most resourceful. The future only ever exists, in each present moment, moment by moment. So why not begin where you can actually have a shot at altering the future path? Here and now.
Here's a powerful and easy 4-minute exercise you can embrace here and now:
Do a check in with how you're feeling right here and now?
Do you feel inspired? Do you feel beaten?
Invigorated and optimistic? Or depleted and skeptical?
Do you feel nothing?
Feeling nothing is ok too. You'll get there. > We're going for inspired, invigorated, and optimistic :)
FEEL into what feels like is missing.
Now, in what ways can YOU contribute best to building a bridge from here .. to there. Beginning right here and now. Look to yourself FIRST before you start piecing together the puzzle with your employees.
"Don't think chess game, ten moves ahead. Only focus on what's right before you."
One step, one inspired action. That's it. Don't think chess game, ten moves ahead. Only focus on what's right before you. The very next step or thought will take you to the next, and the next, and the next... moment by moment. It works! I promise.
JUST THE RIGHT TEAM
Look around you. Perhaps you have JUST the right team of talent you've diligently assembled to support your vision of where you want to take your company. If so, CONGRATULATIONS! If you've achieved that, then you also know that team will continuously evolve in order to adapt to changing conditions from here ... to there.
FALLING SHORT ON POTENTIAL?
If you DON'T have JUST the right team of talent, or you believe there's much potential untapped -- here's an insight you might consider. It truly is a powerful re-frame of your current scenario:
Your team, and what you see in them, acts as a powerful mirror for ...
YOU. Yes You, their Leader, their visionary, their finest cheerleader.
if there's something you see that's lacking in a particular department, leadership staff, or frontline employee... small business, large business, it makes no matter. Rather than trying to dig in and figure out what's missing 'over there,' first look inward at yourself. Ask yourself questions like:
If you first pause, imagining that person or situation as a mirror back to you for your OWN lesson, your OWN gift...
often in that simple re-frame, light is shed. A new perspective is gained, Higher empathy engages within you. You're then coming from a place of offering, inspiration, insight for that employee. You first did if for yourSELF.
It's not always easy balancing between being a mom and mentor for your child.
But it's a worthwhile pursuit.
It's amazing to me that I recorded this video one year ago. So much has changed. 2018 was an interesting year for all of us. Particularly for my daughter McKenna who made her own big transition from high school to college. For awhile there, we weren't so sure college was going to be a part of her path. Not due to academics, but to interest and appetite. One year later she's doing magnificently at college. And while it hasn't come without its' natural highs and lows, like with any change, she's blooming forth into her next chapter beautifully.
At each turn I was summoned to be discerning about where I stood in my role with her - confidante, mentor, supporter, mother, and in what the video below describes as knowing when to be a "non-mom." Which simply means, tending to my OWN life to allow her to tend to hers.
I've learned that trusting McKenna means trusting myself - that I've done a good job raising her; doing the best that I can with the resources I had at the time. All that we wish to impart to our children may not always be the best for THEM. Trust that they will adopt what works, and drop what doesn't. That's their right. It's their path. I can nudge, and I can cheer lead, and I can disagree, but I wish not to judge. And I wish to invest the bulk of my energy in doing ME. That's the best gift a parent can ever grant to their children. Letting them choose, letting them become, allows them to learn the Art of Blooming their own life.
Angela Moonan, Author
Are you ready to BLOOM?